According to most philosophers, using the opinion of a finite person for how to think, act, and talk is dangerous. According to Hume or most forms of induction, 'Jack' would have to be omniscient and omnipresent to know the consequences of one's actions at all times and all places to give an objective solution. He would also have to have the insight into the human nature of the questionaires to be able to judge with more variation. This brings me to the question of; why in hell would a magazine give advice that could bring civil accusations and ruin someone's life in the long run? It would also require that one has an absolute standard of how to act, think, or talk. If not...then the advice is merely pragmatic subjectivism.
Do like I did & start having it at your house. If someone gets out of line, you kindly say I don't appreciate your comment & if you cannot change your attitude, please leave. This is a time for family & love. Do not wish to have negative energy in my home on this day. Generally, that shuts people up quick.
Yep, I'm working the skeleton crew on Friday, and glad to be doing it. "Oh, I'm so sorry, kinfolk and inlaws, gotta go to work today, nose to the grindstone and all that..."
If that doesn't work, you can always use my trick...work on the holidays. You don't have to put up with either family and the extra money is pretty nice as well.
Every word of this guy's letter screams of raw, bleeding emotional wounds. Especially the closing bit about "at the moment I have finally found true happiness." Really? After a month?
He's not done with that divorce yet.
Go off to college and get yourself a nice, educated liberal man.
Girl, you need to re-evaluate what you just said. One, it sounds like he doesn't hunt to kill for the fun of it. He hunts & eats his kill. BIG difference. I have absoltely no problem with hunting for food. There is an issue with hunting for fun. Not he & his family.
You don't need to try to change him, you need to try to find someone else. Besides, you're still in school. Boys will come & go. Maybe you two were just meant to be friends & you need to search the veggie section to find your soulmate.
This is a similar issue that my girlfriend and I have but she understands that I love to be in the woods. And for a lot of hunters that is what it is all about. Getting out in the woods with friends and/or family or just being in nature. Even when I leave to go hunting she usually follows "Be safe", with " I hope you don't kill anything." But she knows it means a lot to me and it makes me happy, so she doesn't try to change that.
I would say the best thing for you to do, is to be up front with him and have that conversation a honest conversation. Since he is a hunter I promise he has dealt with people that don't understand what hunting is all about. I'm sure this will not be only thing that you two will have different opinions on. I wish you the best of luck.
White Tailed Deer were almost extinct in the South East until HUNTERS banded together to restore the population, where hunting is not allowed the deer are over populated, malnourished and diseased. Go to Chickamauga Military Park and see all the weak tiny deer that have over run the park since hunting was banned. If you really are opposed to hunting you need to be a Vegan and publicly announce it at every opportunity so people who think and reason instead of FEEL can avoid you like the Plague you apparently are. If your boyfriend quits hunting for you congratulations you just got a weak person who will bend and yield instead of standing up for what is right.
I found myself in the same situation. I now share my living room with a hideous deer head who I've named Mike. What I've found is that hunting does help considerably with my grocery bill...so I can't complain too much. Unless, of course, he pays a ridiculous amount of money to join a hunting club. Plus, when I think of the way we get our other meat, and the miserable, tortured animals that end up on our tables, the thought of hunting doesn't sound that bad, after all. You still won't find me doing it, but I've stopped judging those who do.
So it's ok if someone you don't know kills the animal you just ate, but not ok if your boyfriend does it. Find another boyfriend; you don't deserve this guy.
The only person you can change is you. You can continue to discuss this topic with him and explain your feelings and view of hunting, but ultimately, if he decides to change, he will do it on his own terms and in his own time. To do otherwise, would be to act like someone he is not, and I am sure you don't want that.
To give up hunting would be to go against a family tradition, and that is always hard.
I understand your problem with killing animals; I share the same sentiments.
However, this is not your decision to make. It is his. If you try to change him in this or any other way, you will only frustrate yourself. You can either decide to live with this, while you all continue to discuss it, or find someone else who shares your view of life. Good luck!
Is it really that big of a deal if he goes hunting? You stated that it doesn't interfere with your time together, so what's the deal? Besides with the rising costs of food being a hunter may turn out to be advantageous.
Truer words were never spoken Jack.... especially the bit about the ex-wives and 8 year old Saturns
I think he should ask for a deduction in his rent. After all, pay for view was probably not part of the original lease agreement.
My letters to Dear Abby always begin with some variation of "My wife doesn't know but..."
I definitely don't think he should "stick it out," or wait and "save up a deposit." So many straight lines, so little time.
I assumed "Stuck" was British.
Indeed, mine ususally begin, "I am a student at a large midwestern university, and..."
You can tell it wasn't my letter because it didn't start with...."I never thought I'd be writing this, but..."
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