Yo Boiling Over,
Sorry fella, but I'm gonna have to strongly (but respectfully) disagree with the advice that's been dispensed here. If I were in Vegas, I’d bet that your girlfriend’s lack of sexual interest in you has far more to do with how she feels about you emotionally than it has to do with anything that she might be going through physically.
Sure, there’s a chance that it’s a medical issue, but if it was, my experience tells me that she would just tell it to you plainly. After 4 years in an exclusive relationship, there’s no real reason for her NOT to trust you with this info. Besides, if she could blame her lack of interest in sex on something medical, she would surely just go ahead and do that.
That way, she wouldn’t have to always keep coming up with DIFFERENT excuses to dodge your advances. So that’s why I estimate her problem is not with sex. Her problem is with YOU.
Hate to be the one to tell you this, but the truth is that if a woman was REALLY into you----it would actually take something as dire as a serious medical problem to keep her off of you. This woman you’re with probably never was really passionate about you in the first place. She probably just hooked up with you in the beginning out of convenience and proximity. And now as the years go by, her initial lack of strong passion for you is now finally showing up.
Furthermore, I don’t see any evidence that she really respects you or values your company as much as a man would like for a woman to. And the reason I say this is because ANY woman who thinks of a guy as “Mr. Right” would never risk losing him by NOT giving him what he needs in order to make sure that “he” keeps getting what he wants in the relationship as well.
Trying to “convince” some girl (even if she’s your girlfriend or your wife) that she “should” have more sex with you will NEVER work the way you want it to. There’s no way in hell that you can negotiate DESIRE. So I’ll tell you like I tell ever other guy I come in contact with:
Good male/female relationships are created and maintained by making sure that you’re with someone who CONSISTENTLY wants to please you as much as you want to plese them.
I’d advise you to start making some hard decisions regarding this woman AND YOUR FUTURE with her.
~Victory Unlimited @ http://victoryunlimitedshow.com/
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