I have to wonder what other contributing factors might need to be considered. My boyfriend and I have conflicting schedules and roommates in a house where everyone can hear everything. We don't get much time together alone, and when we do we're rarely at the same cycle of our day. I'm burning the midnight oil to extend what time we do have, and about 30 minutes after I give in and try to get some sleep, he starts feeling amorous. Or, if I'm asleep and he's out late, any attempt at intimacy has a large obstacle to overcome: trying to coax a response and consciousness out of my dead-to-the-world body. Add to that the fact that the walls have ears, which does bother me, and you have a recipe for a flagging sex life and what seems like a one-sided interest. The truth is, I love my boyfriend more than anyone I have left on this earth and I tell hm every chance I get. I love everything about him, and since I am totally committed to this relationship as my one and only, till death do us part, I figure we have plenty of time to enjoy each other, especially if we decide not to have children. I wasn't worried so much before, as I figured it was a phase of life we were just going to have to deal with until the other factors could be resolved. Now I'm a little more worried about how he sees it...guess I should go pick his brain instead of posting on here, right?
Re: “Jack Advises a Man With a Disinterested Lover”
I have to wonder what other contributing factors might need to be considered. My boyfriend and I have conflicting schedules and roommates in a house where everyone can hear everything. We don't get much time together alone, and when we do we're rarely at the same cycle of our day. I'm burning the midnight oil to extend what time we do have, and about 30 minutes after I give in and try to get some sleep, he starts feeling amorous. Or, if I'm asleep and he's out late, any attempt at intimacy has a large obstacle to overcome: trying to coax a response and consciousness out of my dead-to-the-world body. Add to that the fact that the walls have ears, which does bother me, and you have a recipe for a flagging sex life and what seems like a one-sided interest. The truth is, I love my boyfriend more than anyone I have left on this earth and I tell hm every chance I get. I love everything about him, and since I am totally committed to this relationship as my one and only, till death do us part, I figure we have plenty of time to enjoy each other, especially if we decide not to have children. I wasn't worried so much before, as I figured it was a phase of life we were just going to have to deal with until the other factors could be resolved. Now I'm a little more worried about how he sees it...guess I should go pick his brain instead of posting on here, right?