I always love to read your contributions to the Flyer, Tim Sampson. Usually they piss me off, but only because I agree with you and you have a wonderful way of riling me up. As far as the condom campaign goes, I see your point (The Rant, March 8th issue). However, maybe if people stopped being so slutty this wouldn't have to be said.
I'm a 27-year-old, never-married woman and I've never had a baby. I've also never taken the pill. I choose to sleep with people who I know (or insist that they find out before a sleepover) are STD-free. I would never sleep with anyone who wouldn't be a great daddy, if that were to be how things pan out. I will never be caught in a custody battle. I also know my body and my cycle well enough to know when my fertile times are and abstain from, uh, risky behaviors during that three-day period.
I feel like the Rant this week is encouraging promiscuous and dangerous behavior. A condom is not a solution. You cannot justify bedding random losers as okay because you used a condom.
Gaining the self-esteem to know how to cherish your body as the temple that it is and therefore treating it as such? Now that's an answer I think the gals could benefit from! Of course, try telling that to mothers who never thought they deserved anything better than some uber loser who gave them attention for two whole hours before they took 'em home. Sigh.
Since Tim Sampson doesn't "get" the big deal over women preferring the pill, let me explain this in a way a man may understand:
Suppose men bled from their testicles. And this bleeding occurs roughly every 21 days. Sometimes, it lasts for maybe four days, other times two weeks.
In addition to the above, this condition is also painful. Imagine if your testicles are swollen, cramping, and contracting — trying to turn themselves inside out during this time the bleeding occurred. Could you work or even stand up? Can you imagine having pain so severe you throw up and this lasted for two to three days without any relief?
Wouldn't you want to take something that would make this condition at least a little more tolerable?
And what if there was a treatment on the market? It would make you bleed less, reduce the number of days you bleed, and you would know when the bleeding would arrive. But the biggest benefit? It reduces the pain. And it keeps you from becoming a father until you are ready.
This is what birth control pills do for women. It gives US control over our health and our lives. And that, my dear Mr. Sampson, is the reason women prefer birth control pills over a condom.
Let's just hope the pill (and even condoms) will still be legal in 2013. Get out and vote!
As a national wine and spirits writer, I read your "Bar Exam" cover with great appreciation (March 8th issue). If only more markets' local papers tested their bartenders, this world would be a better place.
I recently wrote a Memphis "who's who" in the bar scene for Tasting Panel Magazine and thought your readers left off two very important Memphis bartenders. Acre's Bart Mallard, a former bartender at New York's renowned Blue Hills Farm, is doing some innovative Southern infusions with moonshine that are risky and delicious. Bartender Chris Ferri at River Oaks keeps a diary of drinks, infusions, and random thoughts behind his bar that shows a man who knows booze. I promise you that Bart and Chris would have not only answered the Singapore sling question, they could tell you the drink's inventor — Ngiam Tong Boon at the Raffles Hotel in Singapore between 1900 and 1915.
With that said, this town should be proud of its bar talent.
In the Flyer review of the film Amigo by Chris Herrington, about the Filipino War aftermath to the Spanish American War, he refers to this conflict as the "first American imperialist (mis)adventure in history" (Film, March 8th issue).
How does Mr. Herrington think we got California, Nevada, Utah, Colorado, Arizona, and New Mexico? Besides the Spanish American War, the Mexican American War is given little attention in U.S. schools.