Tuesday, June 8, 2010

Bianca Knows Best ... and Helps a Mom with a Precocious Teen

Posted By on Tue, Jun 8, 2010 at 1:25 PM

Dear Bianca,

I worry that my 15-year-old daughter is growing up way too fast. Last week, I was preparing dinner when she approached me with a startling request. She asked me if I would buy her a vibrator!

I don’t think she’s sexually active yet (at least I certainly hope not), so I’m not sure why she’d ask for such a thing. I told her no, and she stormed out of the room. Now I’m worried that she may start sleeping with boys to get back at me. How can I keep her from growing up so fast? Should I give in and buy her a vibrator?

— Concerned Mother

Dear Concerned,

It’s not like your daughter asked for a pregnancy test! It’s just a harmless vibrator for god’s sake.

You may still view your daughter as your baby, but at age 15, her hormones are raging. Like it or not, many girls her age have already lost their virginity. You certainly need to sit down with your daughter and find out her level of sexual involvement.

The whole “birds and bees” talk may not be necessary in this digital age, but it’s important to let your teen know that you think having sex at age 15 is a bad idea. You should also emphasize the importance of condoms, because she’ll do what she wants anyway. Better for her to be safe than to get knocked up before her 16th birthday, right?

Though it may seem strange to you, a vibrator may actually be a great alternative for her. Vibrators can’t get you pregnant or give you an STD, and they won’t sleep with you and then disappear from your life. In fact, I’d even argue that vibrators are more practical for women of any age.

Conclusion — Emphasize to your daughter the importance of safe sex, and buy her the vibrator.

Got a problem? E-mail Bianca at bphillips@memphisflyer.com.

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