Heยs always selling.
Selling what a good salesman always sells — himself. With a youthful appearance and an easy, natural charisma, John Vincent Calipari, at 41, is near the peak of the selling game.
And heยs brought his game to Memphis, a town that knows a little bit about charisma. It also knows about con artists, having seen its share of both. Thatยs the Calipari conundrum: Is he smooth or is he slick? And, if he wins enough basketball games, will it even matter?
After trying to get an interview with him for several weeks, I am prepared to dislike the man. As I cool my heels for 15 minutes in the lobby to the basketball office, I vow to not be taken in by this allegedly charming fellow. But I discover quickly what many high school recruits (or more precisely, their mothers) have found out — the Calipari charm can be hard to resist.
ยSorry for the delay,ย the coach says as Iยm escorted into his spacious office in the southwest corner of the new athletic building. ยThe hot water is off at my house and Iยve been running around all morning, so I thought I ought to take a shower.ย
He reaches into the mini-refrigerator for a bottle of water, but the cupboard is bare. Someone has raided his icebox. ยCould someone get me a bottle of water?ย Calipari wonders aloud. Momentarily the requested bottle arrives. Such is the magic of charisma.
ยI donยt know if Iยve been told no yet,ย the coach says of his first six months in Memphis. ยNow I havenยt gone crazy, but everywhere weยve turned where we needed something to make the program better and put these players in a better situation, everybody has said yes.ย
The honeymoon between the new head basketball coach at the University of Memphis and the city at large is still in full swing. Although Calipari has been trying to keep a low profile (partly in deference to Rip Scherer, his football counterpart at the school) it seems he just canยt stay out of the news.
Take, for instance, his house. When Calipari bought a $1.5 million house in the Galloway neighborhood, just across Poplar from the university campus, it caused heads to turn. Many thought the family would buy a home in Germantown or Collierville.
ยOne of the reasons we moved close to the campus was for my own family,ย explains Calipari, reputed to be a workaholic. He says the reason for buying such an expensive house has to do with the value of the house the family sold in New Jersey and the tax implications involved in such a transaction.
The coach sounds embarrassed. ยItยs more [house] than we need or want, and itยs in an area that is probably more exclusive than we are used to,ย he says, stressing a theme that he will carry throughout the interview. The Caliparis are just ordinary folk.
ยWhen people meet me they come away thinking, ยHeยs a regular guy. Heยs like you and me. Heยs no different.ย If they meet my wife they would say, ยI can see sheยs from Oceola, Missouri, a town of 700 people. Their kids are well grounded.ย They understand that everything that we have is borrowed — our house, cars, toys, clothes, everything is borrowed. Weยve always taught them that. I donยt think we are materialistic people.ย
His family doesnยt like the attention his job brings. ยMy wife doesnยt enjoy being in the public eye and neither do my children,ย he says, ยbut they understand the job I have puts us there.ย
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Ellen Calipari greets me at the door of the familyยs home. She is warm and gracious. Although she doesnยt appear nervous, she obviously is not as comfortable with reporters as her husband. She confides that is has been a couple of years since she has been interviewed.
We step down into the large sunken living room. The Caliparisย youngest child, three-year -old Bradley, is watching a cartoon on the TV. Like the coachยs office, the house and grounds seem to be in a state of transition. Which of course they are. Ellen and the three Calipari children — the two daughters, Erin Sue and Megan Rae, are at school — stayed in New Jersey until the Spring semester ended. They are still settling into their new environs.
She is not particularly happy with the house, which the couple bought before she saw it (ยThey e-mailed me pictures of it,ย she says.). It is pastel pink with open spaces and lots of light coming through the numerous windows. Ellen isnยt sure what style it is, but says a friend described it as a Florida house. The description seems apt.
ยI had to warm up to it,ย she says. ยIยm more conservative. The style of it is very different. The color is different.ย She, too, seems embarrassed by the grandness of the house.
Ellen and John met when he was an assistant coach under Larry Brown at Kansas. She worked in the accounting office where John brought in receipts and invoices for the basketball team. It was not love at first sight.
ยI grew up with farmers and people who wore boots, and he came in with shoes with tassels on them,ย she explains. ยIt took me a while to get used to that.ย
Ellen admits she was wary of the city slicker, but thought he was cute and agreed to go out with him. For their first date they planned to go to a baseball game in Kansas City, but the game was rained out and they went to a movie instead. Afterwards Ellen remembers they talked about how different they were.
ยHe was a city guy, very outgoing,ย she says. ยIยm very laid-back. It doesnยt take much to entertain me. I donยt need to do much. Iยm very down to earth. Heยs very motivated, very driven. I guess thatยs why we get along.ย
The man who is taking Memphis by storm was not a very romantic suitor. ยIn fact he would go a week without calling, wouldnยt even call. And when I called him, the line was always busy,ย Ellen recalls. ยMaybe that was a recruiting technique — playing hard to get.ย
Despite their fundamental differences they continued to date and when John got a job at the University of Pittsburgh, she followed him. They soon were married.
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John Calipari sits on the edge of his chair looking me in the eye. His phone rings three or four times during the interview, but he doesnยt even glance at it. He may not be romantic, but for nearly an hour he makes me feel like the most important person in his life.
The topic is his expectation for his first Tiger team. ยI feel good about what weยre going to do here. But success is all relative. Part of it will be, whatยs the initial success? Whatยs our success three or four years from now? I donยt know. The base will be set this year. Now, it may not be as high as we want it to be, but it will be set.
ยGood players will win despite coaching. They will win anyway,ย he continues. ยThis team hasnยt won, so thereยs something wrong. Are they bad kids? No absolutely not. Theyยre good kids. Nice guys. Good people. Do they have the talent to win? Yeah, they do. Well if they are good people and they have the talent to win, why arenยt they winning? It comes down to do they have the work habits, do they have the inner-toughness to win? No, not at this point. Do they understand the unity that it takes to win — that there canยt be cliques? No.ย
Building team chemistry is an important part of the Calipari method. He does it in different ways. The basketball staff meets the entire team for breakfast throughout the year. The players are encouraged to do things together.
ยYou donยt have to be best friends with everyone on the team, but youยve got to care about that guy youยre going on the court with because if you donยt, youยre not going to cover his back and heยs not going to cover yours,ย explains Memphis assistant Tony Barbee, who played for Calipari at the University of Massachusetts.
Calipari was only 29 when he was hired as the head basketball coach at U Mass in 1988. He had only six years experience as a college assistant when he took the job. After going 10-18 his first year with the Minutemen, Calipari led them to post-season appearances seven consecutive years, including five straight NCAA appearances. His last team in 1996 went to the Final Four and was ranked number one in the nation for much of the year. UMass finished the season with a 35-2 record. Among their 35 wins was a hard-fought 64-61 victory over Larry Finchยs Tigers.
ยIts totally a different level of program that he is taking over here as opposed to U Mass,ย Barbee says ยYou have everything built in here to be a Top-Twenty program year in and year out. Youยve got a great city, a great fan base, a great arena, brand-new practice facility thatยs unlike any in the country, a great campus. Youยve got great offices, a great conference. Everything is in place to have a great program.
ยNow it goes back to the beginning, to the things he had to do at U Mass, teaching the players that losing is not an option. I donยt know how much losing hurt them over the last couple of seasons.ย
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While at the University of Massachusetts, Calipari copyrighted the phrase ยRefuse to Lose.ย It is the title of a book he wrote after the 1996 season with veteran sportswriter Dick Weiss. Calipari enforces his copyright vigorously. When Nebraskaยs football team tried to use the phrase, he had his lawyers write them a letter. They could use it on their practice jerseys, but that was all. They couldnยt put it on anything for sale.
He made the phrase more than a clichรฉ at U Mass. It became a way of life, a mantra. ยThe biggest thing was not accepting failure, whether it was from drill-to-drill, from scrimmage-to-scrimmage, practice-to-practice, or game-to-game,ย recalls Barbee of his four years at UMass. ยLosing in anything was not an option.ย
Sometimes Calipari sounds almost sadistic when he talks about the lengths he goes in refusing to lose. ยI told my staff, theyยll be a unit because they will all be trying to survive. Youยve got to lean on eight guys, you canยt lean on just the two next to you because somebodyยs got to help them up. I donยt think that will be a problem a month after we start,ย he says.
Observers of Tiger basketball over the past 15 years know that the program — even the successful teams — lacked toughness. Not since the days of Sylvester Gray and Marvin Alexander has Memphis put a team on the floor that could really be called tough. Calipari plans on changing that.
ยIยm thinking about putting up a heavy bag and teaching them how to box and protect themselves,ย he says. ยNot that I want to create fights or anything like that, but I want their mental makeup to be: There is no thuggery going on. Weยre going to play ball. I can protect myself. If you want to play that game, we can play that game.
ยI hate that game. This game is about synergy, itยs about finesse. Itยs not about beating up the opponent. But if itยs out there, and you want to compete at the highest level, youยve got to be able to play that way.ย
It is this combative side of Calipari that contributed, in part, to one of the few negative incidents in his career at U Mass.
John Chaney is the coach of the Temple Owls. Before Calipari arrived at U Mass, Temple dominated the Atlantic 10 conference. The last five years Calipari was at U Mass, the Minutemen won the conference title. They became the only team to ever beat Temple three time in a season. A rivalry was born — between the schools and between the coaches. In 1994, it turned ugly.
ยThere was an incident two years before when we almost fought on the court,ย Calipari says. ยI told my players that I would never back down from another coach. Iยm not backing down. I donยt ever want my players to see me back down. If weยve got to fight, weยve got to fight. I want my players to understand when they go out into the world there will be compromises, but you can never just be run over. If you accept it once youยre like railroad tracks, everybodyยs going to see that they can run you over.ย
On February 13, 1994, after U Mass beat Temple on a last-second shot, Chaney rushed into the media room where Calipari was having his post-game press conference and began shouting. He threatened to kill Calipari and lunged at him, trying to choke him. The two were separated, but the entire incident was caught on videotape and for several days was a staple on national sports reports.
ยIt was the most embarrassing time for me as a coach. I was embarrassed for the coaching profession,ย Calipari says today. ยIt was embarrassing for me personally. It is a mark on John Chaneyยs career that wonยt go away. I said at the time he doesnยt deserve to be viewed that way.ย
Two weeks after the incident, UMass played Temple again, this time in Philadelphia. When the plane carrying the Minutemen arrived in Philly, a throng of reporters were waiting for Calipari. When a flight attendant offered to sneak the coach off the plane, he responded, ยIยm not Tonya Harding– Iยm Nancy Kerrigan. I havenยt done anything wrong.ย
The story has a happy ending. After the season, Calipari was being roasted at a fund-raiser for American Diabetes Foundation. He invited Chaney to come roast him and the Temple coach accepted. And guess who Calipari lined up for his first game at the U of M? Temple.
ยHe sent me a nice note when I took this job,ย Calipari says. ยI wrote back and said, ยShould we be playing?ยย
Chaney agreed, Calipari called some friends at ESPN, and voila, Memphis opens its season on tonight at The Pyramid against John Chaney and the Temple Owls.
Calipari wants it to be a statement game. And if the statement is for the Memphis fans, so be it.
ยI want everybody to understand that this is not going to be an easy road. This doesnยt change because I became coach. I donยt walk on water. Iยm just a regular guy,ย Calipari says. ยBut I want people to see our players fighting, playing like theyยve never played before, doing things people have never seen them do. Win or lose they leave the building saying ยNow if this is the era weยve gone to, Iยm excited. Weยll win enough.ย It will be a hard game but a good game. The publicity from it — how many people do you think will watch that game? People wonยt remember the win or loss.ย
Again the conundrum. Did Calipari make nice with Chaney because it was the right thing to do or because it makes him look good? Or is it a little of both? And does it matter?
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It matters to Ellen. She canยt bring herself to forgive Chaney for what he did to her husband, to her family, making her daughters cry, making them ask their dad if he was going to be killed when he went to Philly.
It is yet another way in which the two are different. ยHe is a forgive-and-forget kind of person,ย she says. ยThings like that are more upsetting to me.ย
Although she say she is ยvery happyย to be in Memphis, where ยpeople are nice,ย she and her daughters are having to adjust to being in the spotlight again.
ยWhen were in the pros there wasnยt as much notoriety. At U Mass it started very gradually and it was fun. You felt like you were a part of things,ย she recalls. ยWhen he went to the Nets, we werenยt as much a part of things — it was more of a business. Now itยs back to the notoriety. I look at things more as to how they affect my kids.ย
She knows that everyday decisions that are made by other Memphians without notice are a big deal for the Calipari family. ยI think in the back of your mind you know they are statements,ย she says. ยI think I understand those statements. Thatยs why I make the choices I make.ย
Like the choice to send their daughters to public schools. ยWhen it comes to schools, I think it goes back to the values I grew up with,ย Ellen says. ยI really didnยt want to do private schools. I feel like my kids are already in a situation where they are different enough.ย
The coach knows about making statements, too. ยIf I didnยt feel comfortable that my daughters could get a good education in a public school, they would be in a private school,ย he says. ยYou can get what you need in the public school system here. So we felt comfortable. I was public-school educated; my wife was. Weยve both done all right. I work at a state institution. No disrespect for the private schools we looked into, but we felt comfortable with the public schools.ย
With a name like Calipari (there are none listed in the current Memphis phone book), the girls will be well known at their schools, especially after the season starts in November. Ellen says she talks to the teachers at the beginning of the school year and talks to her children about how to react when other kids discuss their dad.
ยI try to raise my kids with the values that they are no different than anyone else, because theyยre not,ย Ellen says. ยBut at the same time, they are. Because what they say can be misconstrued or can be seen differently because of Johnยs position.ย
Another adjustment for Ellen and her kids now that John is back to coaching at a college is his open door policy to his team — for his home and his refrigerator.
ยThe players know my house is their house. I told them not to feel uncomfortable opening a refrigerator, donยt feel uncomfortable making a sandwich, getting some chips. Thatยs the way Iยve always lived,ย Calipari says. ยTheyยre welcome to watch TV or do whatever they want. Iยm not so far removed from it that I donยt remember college.ย
Tony Barbee says thatยs the way Calipari has always been. ยSure heยs got money now. He was in the NBA and heยs secure, but he was like that before he had money,ย Barbee says. ยHis house is accessible. Thatยs why he bought a house next to campus with a swimming pool and a tennis court, so his players can come over there anytime they want. Thatยs how he is. Heยs never changed. When I was at UMass, we came over to the house, raided the refrigerator, raided the cabinets, took anything we wanted.ย
Of course having a house full of college kids in your home, raiding your refrigerator, can be a little disconcerting. But itยs just another aspect of being married to Coach Cal.
ยHe wants them to feel comfortable. If I was sending my kid away to someone, I think I would like that,ย Ellen says. ยThe only thing we tell our kids is, if you have anything that you need for a school lunch, if you have Halloween candy — hide it!ย
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Education is a big deal to John Calipari. He is proud of the fact that he and his sister were the first in their family to attend college. He can talk eloquently about why public colleges exist. When it comes to education, John Calipari is an egalitarian.
Immediately upon arriving on campus, Calipari instituted the same class-attendance policy he had at U Mass. If anyone on the team misses class, the entire team runs at 5 a.m. the next day. ยThat happened once in the spring,ย says assistant coach Steve Rockaforte. ยIt didnยt happen again. That was it.ย
Calipari also got laptop computers donated to the players so they could do homework on the road. And he moved study hall to the athletic building, so that the players would be closer to the coaches. Still, Calipari knows he canยt change the culture immediately.
ยIt took eight years at U Mass. Eight years!ย he says. ยThis is a process. It doesnยt happen over night.ย
In 1994, the U Mass basketball program came under fire when playersย grade point averages were leaked to a Boston paper. The story claimed that four members of the team were on academic probation with grade point averages of less than 2.0. The story was picked up by other publications. Sports Illustrated mentioned it under the caption ยU Mess.ย The players involved filed a lawsuit against the university because of the leak. The case was settled out of court.
But Calipari remains unapologetic. ยWe never had a player flunk out of school. We never had a player academically ineligible. We had the highest team grade point average at U Mass since records have been kept,ย he says. ยWe won more games obviously than any other team. We had players go to the NBA. Thirty-three players — 80 percent — graduated. We were never even questioned by the NCAA.ย
Following the 1996 Final Four season, just as Calipari was leaving U Mass to take the job of head coach, executive vice president, and chief of basketball operations for the New Jersey Nets, his star center Marcus Camby admitted taking money from an agent. A junior, Camby was leaving school early for the NBA. Seeing the coach and star player leaving just ahead of the NCAA posse did not set well with everyone.
The NCAA ordered the U Mass Final four finish vacated. It was only the sixth time the organization had vacated a finish (Memphis Stateยs final four trip in 1985 was also wiped off the books). In addition U Mass had to return $151,000 in tournament money.
Calipari has steadfastly denied knowing about Camby’s involvement with agents.
ยI did not go to the NBA for that reason. I knew we didnยt do anything,ย he says. ยThe NCAA doesnยt now, nor have they ever had a problem with me.ย
Still Calipari takes the Camby incident personally. ยIn the end, I must have failed at some point for him to do the things, or have his friends do the things they did,ย the coach says. ยYou know the school was exonerated, I was exonerated. We did everything we could to stop something like that from happening. But when it happens you say, ยWhere did I fail?ย I just wish it didnยt happen to him, because I think it cost him $30 or $40 million in terms of endorsements and contract.ย
But it didnยt cost Calipari, who signed a five-year, $15 million contract with the Nets. Even though he was fired from New Jersey in 1999, the Nets will pay him through 2001.
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The contract Calipari signed with Memphis is peanuts compared to his NBA deal, but it is the most lavish in school history. The university is paying him $550,000 per year, in addition to incentive clauses worth $380,000. But the coach stands to make even more from endorsements.
ยI am only going to endorse three or four things. Iยm not going to be selling chips or bread or paint or hot tubs, or anything like that,ย Calipari says. ยI owe it to my family. I am making a lot less money than I did in the NBA. Thatยs fine. I did it, I understood. This is an avenue for me to do well financially for my family. But I am going to do things that people in the community would respect.ย
He says he has some questions for anyone wanting him to endorse their product. The questions have to be answered to his satisfaction. ยWhere are you socially in this community? Are you active? Do you give back? What will you do for the university? What are you going to do for me now?ย
So far, Powertel, Jillianยs, Methodist Hospital, Bluff City Honda, and a new restaurant called Calยs Championship Steaks have made the cut. He said he was wary about lending his name to the restaurant, owned by longtime Tiger supporter Pace Cooper. Calipari says he preferred it to be called ยCoachยs Steakhouse.ย He made the deal for two years and will re-evaluate after that.
ยI understand business because I majored in it. I understand that we need to sell and promote ourselves, the program, and the school,ย Calipari says. ยPeople are going to want me to endorse their products. I am going to be very limited in that regard.ย
Coach Cal is smart. Smart enough to know he is in a lucrative spot. ยThis position as head coach in this town is probably unique in that it does carry more weight that it would in any other town,ย he says. ยI want to make sure this position is used in a way to better the university, to better the community. If I do my job, yes we will win enough basketball games, but it will be that this position was used to help this university and this community.ย
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So we are back to the Calipari Conundrum. Is he just an ordinary guy who wants to do all the right things? Or does he do all the right things because he knows it makes for good PR? Is he really good, or too good to be true? Is he smooth or is he slick?
Only time — and basketball games — will tell.
(You can write Dennis Freeland at freeland@memphisflyer.com)
[This article was originally published in the October issue of MEMPHIS magazine.]

